Fear of Judgement

Life is all about our thoughts, and our reaction to those thoughts. Because it is very important that we shouldn’t overthink in all situations. Because overthinking is the only way of creating problems on our own self. Judgement comes when we start judging others without even knowing themselves, With guessing their external behaviour. When it comes to ourselves most of us start thinking of being judged. Judgement is not a bad word but how we are taking it, does matter for us. But we all are doing the mistake in our life, Whether it is Socially, Professionally or Self assessment. In all situations somewhere we are facing the fear of judgement or Insecurity of being judged.

Professional

Professional Judgement is the judgement which we do or face on our professional front. Judgements prevent us from seeing the good which lies beyond appearances. Sometimes, we may face criticism in our workplace, due to many reasons. Reasons might be dressing sense, communication skills, behaviour, set of work ethics. People judge us from our outer versions. They are busy thinking so bad about you they never want to see your inner side. When you learn those things that they were talking bad things about you. We might feel sad and it affects us so badly, which shows lack of our work efficiency and productivity. When you judge another, you don't define them, you define yourself. The only thing making you unhappy are your own thoughts, change them. Every single person on this planet has a story. Don’t judge a book by its cover till you have read it. Things are not always as they seem, the first appearance deceives many. Self care is a cleansing energy. Exhale , you are doing the best you can right now. Always remember one thing, people will judge, you can’t do anything to change their thinking. Experience is not what happens to you, it is what you do with what happens to you. But the only thing you can do is Keep smiling, don’t  feel sad and do your work with utmost loyalty and hard work. Nobody can hurt you. You are not a drop in the ocean, you are the  entire ocean in a drop. When you can’t change people, upgrade your thinking by ignoring them and work towards achieving your goals. People may come and go but never forget that pure soul which you hide in your heart.  Believe in God and your hard work, You will never have a reason to quit.

Social 

Social judgment is how we perceive people, how we form impressions about them and how we think about social things. What comes to our mind as first thought when we think about social judgement, our dressing sense, our character etc.  But why does it matter for us? And specially for girls, according to their mentality they will judge you with your dresses and behaviour. If you are talking and spending time with the opposite gender then you don’t have a good character and if we are wearing short dresses then you are a so called type of character. But why shouldn’t we have to question their sickness mentally that choices should be made on their own. We all want to maintain respect in our society by sacrificing our own decision and by mistake if we are taking a single decision without thinking of this society then all fingers will start blaming us. We all are somewhere not capable of fighting against society and when we try it then we have to think for going outside too.So, Dear society you are like us, You have your own family with their own thoughts. Please don’t judge us because of my choice of clothes. It is my choice and my family has no restriction then why you are interfering with your so called talks. Your judgement somewhere affects my personal life and sacrifices my decisions. Somewhere society also comes to protect us but when they want we have to follow their rituals rules then it seems rude. Yes we all have fear of social judgement but instead of being scared we should follow our dreams and start making good decisions so that everyone will be proud of you. So don’t let social judgement change your personal decision.

Self Judgement- Fear of being judged

Self judgement is the act of judging oneself. It results from thoughts individuals have about themselves. The thoughts, hence produce related feelings such as anxiety, anger and depression. It is the worst thing we did to us in our lives. Under the influence of social or professional aspects, we judged ourselves and found faults in us, which is too rude and a harsh weapon on our soul. Judging is never good for anyone whether it is for others or for yourself. When we struggle to change ourselves, we in fact continue the pattern of self judgement and aggression. We keep the war against ourselves alive.  If we demand perfection from ourselves we are not living in the world. Continuously hurting yourself. Never change yourself after any random comments passed on you. People are jealous of you, your success. After judging what we left is pain, fear and getting angry at ourselves. Never compare yourself with anyone. You are the best creation made by god on this earth. It is easier to overcome People’s You have enough capabilities to fight against problems. stay soft, don’t let the things that have hurt you, turn into a person you are not. Always do your best, your best is going to change moment to moment. Under any circumstances, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgement, self abuse and regret. Your best is yet to come, love yourself, spend quality time with yourself, don’t be harsh. Whatever you do, be kind to yourself. Always everything will work again, if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you. Never let a bad person or thought  change your inner goodness. Live your life to the fullest, Keep doing what you are doing, always listen to the lyrics of your heart.

Does Judgement really exist in our life? What you guys think please comment.